#34 ask out a certain guy at the gym...

DONE!!!!!

I'm the kind of person who can do silly things (like this blog mission) & I don't need to be dared to do it (like wearing the pink wig to the Breast Cancer Walk). So it should not surprise you that I finally got the chance to give a guy my phone number with the plan of asking him out. The giving out my phone number part is a big risk for me. I have only given out my number twice...the first guy never called. And #2...well...read on....

I have been going to this gym around my neighborhood for about a year now. I even have an awesome trainer who spanks me into shape on a weekly basis. I love it. I love sweating like a beast as I'm slimming down.

I also love chatting w/the people I meet there. And of course I love checking out the men there. And I love that I get checked out as well.

Then along comes P.

P is a friend of my trainer. He is a guy that I will become fast friends with & I will eventually work up the nerve to ask him out. Over the last year, I would see him from time to time. We'd always strike up a conversation about my trainer & how I'm getting spanked. P will over the coarse of the year tell me he can see the results. (Yippee!!!) And over the year I will start to see P in a new light.

So fast forward to my last training session on the morning of Jan17th. I am off from work to take care of some things & decide to schedule an early training session. I end up chatting w/my trainer about P. I ask if he's seen him...which he has & he lets it slip that P has been asking about me.

OMG! My heart is all a flutter. I feel like I'm back in high school suddenly.

I casually play it cool & my trainer tells me that he thinks we should get together already. It's been long enough that we keep asking about each other. So he tells me flat out, 'Just ask him out already'...

...and here we are back to my blog...

#34 ask out a certain guy at the gym

It's now Wednesday night. I head into the gym & try not to be too obvious as I look around for P. Nope. Don't see him. Damn. I throw my bag into a locker, grab my towel, book, bottle of water & head out for a bike to do some great cardio tonight.

I'm on the bike & every so often I glance up from the book & look for P. Nope. Still not around. I'm about fifteen minutes on the bike ride & I see someone out of the corner of my eye. Yup, it's him. He was on a bike two spots away. He sees me looking up & we smile at each other. Then he comes over.

There is the usual exchange of pleasantries. 'Happy New Year', 'haven't seen you in a few weeks', 'how was your holiday?'...yup, our usual chat. Then I started remembering # 34 on the list...ask out a certain guy at the gym. This is one I put on the list & it's about P. So here is the opportunity to do it.

I'm going for it.

I don't care that I'm sweating like a beast & that my hair isn't perfect.

I don't care that I have on no make-up.

I'm still me.

I'm beautiful & I'm going for it.

Screw waiting for him to ask me out already.

I can do this!

I am a smart woman with a lot to offer the right man.

Let's see if it's him...shall we?

Without realizing it, I'm still doing my awesome cardio workout & we are chatting away.
'They say more snow is coming'
'Hopefully not too bad'
'Hopefully it's not as bad as the snow we had last week or the day after Christmas'
'Hopefully it be just a light flurry'
'I have to get to Pathmark to pick up food because the news is making it out to be a huge storm coming'
'Yeah, they like to freak us out over nothing'
'I know'
'Hey...I was wondering if you'd like to go for some coffee sometime???' (hopefully it didn't sound too desparate)
No ackward silence, or even the dreaded long pause, but a response of 'Sure, let me get your number'

And with that, I gave P my number.

So of course I'm glad I saw him & chatted & now I am flipping out waiting for the phone to ring. I will freak out until that phone rings & it's him. Anyone else calling is going to annoy me. I'm not going to be happy answering the phone until it's P. And then I am going to play it cool & act like I wasn't waiting for his call at all.

Yes folks, this is what we all do.

Chicks do it.
Guys do it.
We all do it.

And you can't tell me any differently.

We are all human & we all just want to be loved.

So by now you want to hear about the call...

Thursday...no call.
No big deal...give him time to work up the nerve to make that first call.
Friday...no call.
I have plans to get out anyway, so I'll wait.
Saturday...no call.
Plans again, not even paying attention to the phone.
Sunday...no call.
Watching the Jets game...not paying attention to much else.
Monday...no call.
The Jets lost, a new week is starting...hmm...no call? No problem.
Tuesday...no call.
Umm...yeah...what's with the delay here?
Wednesday...no call.
It's been a week now since I gave P the magic numbers. Did he put it in his cell phone in the right order?

For the record, I will have polled every guy I know. They all agree the average wait time is about two weeks.
TWO WEEKS?!?!?!?!?!
Are you kidding me???
In two weeks I will have hit on at least a dozen other guys!
Fourteen days...OMG!
I won't wait fourteen seconds for water to boil let alone fourteen days for a guy to call me.

For the record, I am a TRUE Taurus. VERY IMPATIENT!!!!

Thursday...no call.
It's been snowing a lot lately here...so umm...what's his excuse? He should have time to call...but luckily I will spend the day playing in the snow, so the phone will be home where I can't see if there is or isn't a call. (For the record...there obviously wasn't a call!!!)
Friday...no call.
I'll blog about something else...my new teapot & my plans for the tea party.
Saturday...no call.
Are you kidding me????? I'm about to give up.
Sunday...no call.
Good thing I was out looking for a tea set otherwise I would have been pissed.
Monday...no call.
Seriously???
Tuesday...no call.
13 days now...what gives? A certain brother from upstairs will tell me to move on. He's right. Why bother counting any more days. P isn't going to call...oh well...his loss will be someone else's gain.

By the way, I'll be keeping #10 get set up on a blind date on the list...it might come in handy.

Back to the blog...


I'm getting ready to set a date for my first book club get together. Sara & I have been talking books more & more during my invites to dinner with her & Craig. I am loving these dinner nights. Not just for my play date with a certain little two year old, but for the chats with Sara. I'm so glad I have a good friend so close to home! And once we set the date I will gladly announce what book we are reading so you can join along. Maybe that means a new blog has to be started...

Anyway, I haven't made another other plans yet. But you will be glad to know I ordered some teacup & saucers for the tea party. I found a pretty pattern on this website called Replacements. They sell stuff that is discontinued or hard to find. So I ordered eight & I will work on finding a matching teapot for it.

I've updated the list once again & I'm still open for more suggestions. Come on folks. This is supposed to be an interactive blog. Get with the interaction!!!

The list tonight...
1 - full body massage
2 - take a hike
3 - frozen hot chocolate at Serendipity in NYC
4 - Gravity Hill in Bedford, Pa
5 - learn to speak Spanish
6 - read 'War & Peace'
7 - get a tattoo
8 - take Salsa lessons
9 - take a cooking class
10 - get set up on a blind date
11 - hostess a tea party
12 - ride a Harley
13 - buy 40 different pairs of socks
14 - get a make over
15 - get 40 people to join me for a picnic in a park
16 - go whale watching
17 - eat a papaya...I've never had one
18 - cook a Thanksgiving dinner
19 - sing karaoke w/some friends
20 - visit the gravesite of Billie Burke, Glenda from 'The Wizard of Oz' in Vallhalla, NY
21 - learn sign language
22 - paint my bedroom
23 - clean out the living room closet
24 - go to Niagara Falls
25 - Spend the day in Philadelphia
26 - go on a "spiritual Retreat"
27 - rodeo riding
28 - bungy jumping
29 - walk across the Brooklyn bridge
30 - go to the Statue of Liberty
31 - start a book club
32 - go skinny dipping
33 - go on a photo taking tour of Queens
35 - get a group of people to walk in the Breast Cancer walk at Jones Beach
36 - write the next great American novel
37 - go to a movie every day for one week
38 - learn to knit
39 - go to a Zumba class
40 - go to a hot yoga session
41 - try the belly dancing class at the gym
42 - visit a state/city that you've always wanted to visit
43 - try pole-dancing
44 - chop down your own Christmas tree
45 - donate to a charity you never thought you would give money to
46 - volunteer at a soup kitchen
47 - volunteer at an animal shelter
48 - go Christmas Caroling
49 - horse drawn carriage ride in Central Park
50 - ice skating at Rockefeller Center
51 - make holiday cards & gifts for 2011
52 - trip to Smithsonian Museums in Washington, DC
53 - go to Junior's for a slice of cheesecake
54 - volunteer at Woodstock Farm Sanctuary
55 - go to Sylvia's in Harlem for chicken & waffles
56 - take a trip to the Long Island vineyards
57 - check out the Montauk lighthouse
58 - visit a cranberry bog
59 - go see a Broadway play
60 - visit Mark Twain's house in CT
61 - go to Atlantic City & lay down a $50 bet
62 - hot air balloon ride
63 - stock car racing
64 - white water rafting at the Delaware gap
65 - take a picture w/the Naked Cowboy in NYC
66 - go to Medievil Times
67 - go to a Murder Mystery Dinner
68 - go for dinner at Havana in NYC
69 - go to the circus
70 - go to a football game
71 - go cayaking
72 - Fleet Week in NYC
73 - Circle Line cruise around NYC
74 - Hayden Planetarium laser show
75 - Hershey Park, PA
76 - visit a dude ranch
77 - take a photography class
78 - bike riding with Hippie Dave
79 - go on a vacation alone
80 - go to the beach looking for seashells with Hippie Dave
81 - Howe Caverns
82 - go see the Mets at Citifield
83 - rock wall climbing
84 - fly a kite
85 - archery w/Anthony
86 - go to the Halloween parade in the village
87 - go to the Museum of the Moving Image in Astoria
88 - go line dancing
89 - Governor's Island
90 - ride the Staten Island Ferry
91 - ride the Roosevelt Island tram
92 - go to a midnight movie show w/Tracy wearing your jammies
93 - go to the Noguchi Museum in LIC
94 - go to the King Manor Museum in Jamaica
95 - go to the Fisher Landau Center for Art in LIC
96 - go to the Sculpture Center in LIC
97 - go horseback riding
98 - ride a mechanical bull
99 - Mystic Aquarium, CT